Rule 50#: If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.Thursday, November 24, 2011
It's very easy to moan, to complain, to criticize. It's much harder to always find something nice to say about a situation or a person. But think of it now as a huge challenge. Saying something nice is hard because our natural inclination is to moan. When a friend asks how you're getting on with your boss, the things they do that really annoy you usually spring to mind before the upsides...
No matter how horrid someone is, there's always something about that that's good. Your job is to find that good bit and highlight it, speak about it, draw attention to it. Same with a situation that seems troublesome.
When asked your opinion of someone, something, somewhere, you need to find something good to say, something flattering and positive. There's ample evidence that being positive has many benefits but the most noticeable is that people with gravitate towards you and not even know why. That positive air about you is attractive. People like being around those who are upbeat, positive, happy and confident.
" If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Yap? Emmm.
We need to bite our tongue more and say good things more often!
Obviously, if you're only going to say good things, then this cuts out our back-bitting, gossiping, slagging off, telling tales, being rude about people, complaining (you're allowed to point our defects or problems but in a constructive way). And that could leave you with a big gap to fill!
Before opening your mouth, try-just for a week-to find something good to say. It's one of those things that will amaze you to how it improves your life, but don't take my word for it-just try it. And if all else fails, and you really can't think of anything positive to say at all, then don't say anything at all!
The Rules of Life by Richard Templar.
P/S: It means we should remain silent for a moment from talking too much? Or the more we talked, the more we hurt the hearts of others? If so, what's the best solution to resolve such this case?